Excited to share these trends and entertaining tips for your next Fall dinner party. If it’s a casual lunch, fun dinner party, or holiday potluck I’ve got you set with 2 very cool very different table set ups. Share this video as a cheat sheet if you’ll be co-hosting a cozy dinner soon!
Shot thanks to some amazing production sponsors in The Queer Interior studio we put together two really rad tables that combine some classic Fall favorites and fun retro-cabin vibes. Table settings and accents that help to create a cozy vibe are showcased in this video staring yours truly as the host. So funny watching it back for me. It was a great day of shooting and I’m so pleased with the outcome.
I haven’t done a post in a while and I thought I’d share some things I’ve learned in the last 10 years in New York. Seeing everyone “get there” in business or personal life is something that starts to happen when you hit 30 in New York. Either folks are having babies and buying houses or peers start to find a niche for themselves professionally.
Recently, out to coffee with my friends I’ve noticed all are in varying stages of either realizing or investing in their own professional success in non-profit sectors and freelance capacities. Some are expanding their businesses, some are starting new bigger/hairier projects and some are packing-up and heading west. My own philosophy for a long time was to find money. I took every gig under the sun and that nomadic freelance lifestyle always paid, sometimes not with actual dollars, but always with a lesson or a scar. That philosophy has served me for as long as it could. I have survived in New York and now I gotta get there.
Below are 3 things that continue to work for me and that I learned from folks further down the road than myself. Some or none of these will apply to your experience.
1. Ask for what you want
This is something I learned from my parents and something I really take for granted. Everyone has goals they’ve either sketched out on a map or keep tucked away til’ something magical happens. You can’t bank on that magic and often times the map you’ve laid out doesn’t include the whole picture. The conventional ways modeled for creative people “getting there” haven’t proven useful to me. The way I’ve gotten to a fair majority of my professional success is by asking people for exactly what I want and working backwards. The truth is that people want to help other people and it’s made a whole lot easier if the people in charge have a full understanding of what you want.
2. Better done than perfect
There are jobs where things have to be perfect. Doctors, judges, architects all require a monastic commitment to details and perfection. Luckily the jobs I’m good at don’t. I work in interior design editorial, fundraising, events, styling and other creative industries and I know we aren’t saving lives, we’re making things pretty. There are tons of logistics and attention to detail and those moving pieces are very important, but not science. The personal experience someone has is the only part of the job that should be perfect; the getting there doesn’t have to be.
3. You are doing it wrong
I’ve messed up on projects or left things uncompleted and had to experience the consequences. It’s in those hair-raisingly awkward interactions or dramatic emails that you learn the most. You have to do it wrong. I learned way more from my slip ups than I did from my successes. The caveat here is that you want to be doing wrong less and less of the time.
What are the tools you use to “get there”?
Where these tips useful? irritating? Comment below
Made it a point to hit up @Arts&Queers at Little Field in Brooklyn today to meet some talented vendors and take in some tunes. It didn’t hurt that Yeah Dawg was dolling out their addictive vegan hot dogs. Founder of Yeah Dawg Marina Benedetto and I kicked it for a while and she fixed me up an inspired snack with all the fixin’s. Ran into the always darling Dakota Bracciale. We used to hang back in the SouthPaw/Bar Four (R.I.P) days when I was hosting Gender Bender/ Queerespondence in partnership with BrooklynTheBorough.com. In other words, A LIFETIME AGO!
We spilled the tea, mostly on me, because she read my cards and let me tell you it was church #selfcare #balance. After my reading, I handed out some totes and got lost. It was a lovely beginning of spring hang and I hope it’s a sign of my getting out into my community more and more. Have fun y’all!
In honor of the spring refresh we’re doing on the site I thought it would be neat to post this look from our 2012 prototype issue. We built it on ISSU.com and Colleen and I spent the launch day drinking coffee and cursing at her desktop making sure everything was just so. This shot is of Ed Roth and his right-hand lady who had just stenciled the big bear with chalk paint for our fundraising party in Brooklyn. He was a big shot then and now he’s basically a famous person. He recently won Product of the Year 2015 for new line of stencil wallpaper. He’s got you covered from wallpaper to crafts to textiles, all highly versatile and reusable featured in his books published by Chronicle Books.
Yeah Dawg needs you as a backer on Kickstarter. Head that way and show love! New York City is a hot-dog city and it’s about time we could all be in on the fun! #YeahDawg
Yeah Dawg has raised over $20,000.00 ! This means they’ve got 12 hours to make their remaining $5,000.00. Tweet them: @YeahDawgVegan / Facebook them: Yeah Dawg Facebook / A Instagram them: @YeahDawgVegan to help spread the word. These final hours are the most important ! Godspeed you vegan hot dog!
Y.D is an organic plant based pop up hot dog cart that serves soy and gluten free dawgs along with an assortment of home made fermented krauts, pickled toppings, coconut bacon, and our own cashew mayonnaise. The Y.D is homemade and hand-rolled using a blend of beets, potatoes, sweet potatoes, carrots, sunflower seeds, GF flours, herbs and spices. They are unique because they are the only soy and gluten free dawg to hit the market. Founder and Chief Marina Benedetto is a mover and shaker in New York and has donated services and been an awesome leader/advocate in the LGBTQ community for decades. Show Marina’s brand some love and make the Yeah Dawg Team’s day!
They are over half way to their goal and need backers on Kickstarter.com. I’m sharing because I realized my own start-up dreams on Kickstarter for The Queer Interior.com and I know how meaningful it can be to feel so supported. If you can’t donate, don’t. Just share the Kickstarter link on your social media and spread the word. A post on Facebook or Instagram is super helpful especially in the last 72 hours. They’ve got 3 days left and it’s not over til’ it’s over. Share with your foodie friends and brooklyn peeps and let’s get Marina that money.
Here are some helpful links so you can learn more! Feel free to pass any of these along to your followers, friends, and coworkers because every $1 counts!
I’m a big believer as a renter in NYC that reclaiming or inheriting odds and ends is a better and kinder way to populate your space. Krrb.com is the perfect place to do just that. They’ve honored me with the task of picking some of my favorite Krrb finds for Fall and I hunted down some really lovely (and equally strange) objects on the shop by stoop home sales website. Krrb is easy to use and I’ve had a blast selling and buying on it myself. Anyone can build a “corner” where they list home decor, furniture, or homemade wares for sale. You can easily post and edit pictures or information about the object and tag key words. The site helps you search by zip code and category and it’s a real blast to find out what’s near by. Look for The Queer Interior and my 20 selections on their newsletter and website today! Here are my top 5 and why I picked’em!
As featured on Remodelista and AllModern.com. This Hunter Green Blue Dot Strut Table is an awesome use of space. It’s highly functional as a desk or dinning room table. It’s the perfect freelancer find and if you’ve got a neutral space the green is going to be a really great contrast color.
Looking to ironically store toilet paper or have legit tools to store? Then you should buy this awesome tool box! I think it’s really sexy and sleek and if I had more than a hammer and bad attitude about home repair I’d buy it. in. a. heartbeat.
When I think about what’s great for Fall gourds and painted leaves are not my first thoughts. This Swarovski covered animal skull, now this, this is autumnal. I want it on my dining table or coffee table, really anywhere someone can see it.
*Big Thanks to Krrb.com for letting us play!
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